What to wear to a wedding when you don’t want to wear heels

So you’re going to a wedding this winter but you can’t face wearing heels? Don’t worry! En Brogue is here to help. I’ve written about this a few times before, mostly for the summer, but I had a request this week for an update, and as I’m going to a wedding myself this weekend it’s on my mind! If you’re still worried about ditching your heels for a posh do, I hope I can persuade you to switch to flats because you’ll have a MUCH better time. Tricky staircase to manoeuvre? No problem. Cobbled street to get to the venue? Bring it on. Amazing band playing you want to dance all night to? Just try and stop me!

This image (top) was me at my brother’s wedding a few years ago. I went about as unconventional as it gets – well, I didn’t wear jeans and a T-shirt, but you get the drift. No dress AND no heels. And I can tell you this: I had the BEST time on the dance floor. I even stole an older gentleman’s orange braces to complete my outfit and use as a dance prop…(although only my close friends are allowed to see that image!)

Anyway, I digress – what about you? Here are a few tricks that might help in your transition.

The oldest flat shoe trick in the book

Mango pink slingbacks

Mango pointed toe leather shoes, £49.99 ([AD] mango.com)

If you still want to look feminine and have a similar effect to a pair of heeled courts, try a pointed toe flat. I’ve said it many times, but there’s something about that pointed or almond-shaped toe that mimics the feeling you get from a pair of heels, and it also helps to lengthen your legs. Plus, if you find a shoe with a low cut vamp (that just means it shows more of your foot, and preferably some toe cleavage) you’ll give your legs even more of a helping hand. This seasons there are plenty of softer, rounded toe shapes around, but if it’s slightly elongated (rather than like a traditional ballet shoe) it will have the same effect, as will this winter’s square toe. These are the perfect shoes to wear with a shift or fitted dress.

Boden ‘Evie’ pointed flats, from £85 ([AD] boden.co.uk); L.K. Bennett ‘Catrina’ velvet flats, £165 ([AD] lkbennett.com); Topshop ‘Atom’ pointed flats, £19 ([AD] topshop.com); Massimo Dutti leather ballerinas, £69.95 (massimodutti.com)

Fancy some fancy flats?

Rogue Matilda star

Rogue Matilda ‘Intergalactic’ lace-ups, £175 (roguematilda.com)

How about a bit of embellishment? I know some women feel they need to compensate for the lack of heels by wearing really snazzy flats and although I don’t agree that you have to do this, there are some lovely shoes in the style that work really well for a wedding, particularly as we get closer to Christmas. If sparkles aren’t your thing, look for snake-effect leather, or another feature like ribbons and ruffles. These from Charles & Keith can be tied either in front of or behind the ankle.

Anthropologie ‘Lovisa’ jacquard loafers, £85 (anthropologie.com); Miista ‘Suevia’ lilac metallic flats, £190 (miista.com); J. Crew velvet flats, £138 (jcrew.com); Charles & Keith lace-up sling backs, £49 ([AD] charleskeith.com)


White isn’t just for the bride

Zara white leather mules

Zara white leather mules, £39.99 (zara.com)

I also think white (and off-white) shoes are an absolute winner, particularly if you’re going for something more masculine. I felt great in my monks from Northern Cobbler (sadly they’re not available anymore). This is a good option for anyone wearing trousers, though I would advise picking something cropped or rolling up the hems so you show your ankles. It’s MUCH more flattering. And as it’s winter, I 100% sanction the use of ankle boots. Pair with a long floral dress for a slick on-trend look.

COS pointed flats with piping, £89 ([AD] cosstores.com); Madewell ‘Kinley’ Mary Janes, £77.71 (madewell.com); Vagabond ‘Emilia’ boots, £125 (vagabond.com); & Other Stories pointed leather loafers, £79 ([AD] stories.com)


I hope that helps any of you looking for wedding guest shoes (or brides-to-be come to that – because why shouldn’t the bride wear flats too?). The best thing of all is that you can invest in a pair of shoes you’re likely to wear again; all of these would looking brilliant just with a simple white shirt and jeans. As usual I’d love to hear what you think. Have you worn flats to a wedding? Do you find it a scary prospect? Would you go as far as trainers?! Leave comments below.

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